Don't let the chatbox scary you. Lots of people come and post in the forum and never use the chatbox. We like the chatbox because you can post there and then the message is gone after 24 hours....just chatter....not the important things. We used to use the chatter threads more often, but then it was there permanently.
You will find this forum just like any other vbulletin forum.
There are videos to introduce you ...we make it easy for you!
Start with a post in the welcome area.
Welcome! Please let me know if I can help you find your way around.